SEL Curriculum Unit 4: Relationship Skills

Relationship Skills

The abilities to establish and maintain healthy and supportive relationships and to effectively navigate settings with diverse individuals and groups. This includes the capacities to communicate clearly, listen actively, cooperate, work collaboratively to problem solve and negotiate conflict constructively, navigate settings with differing social and cultural demands and opportunities, provide leadership, and seek or offer help when needed.

Goals Addressed: Relationship Skills

Establishing and maintaining healthy and rewarding relationships

    • Initiate contact with others.
    • Share one’s thoughts and feelings (appropriately).
    • Express appreciation.
    • Give and receive constructive feedback.
    • Establish and maintain healthy and rewarding connections with individuals and groups.
    • Offer and receive help.
    • Contribute to the achievement of group goals.
    • Recognize and respect boundaries.
    • Take turns, show fairness.
    • Show forgiveness to others.

Communicating Clearly

    • Use verbal and nonverbal skills to express oneself and promote positive and effective exchanges with others.
    • Modify one’s expression to fit the situation and audience.
    • Make clear I-statements.
    • Ask appropriate questions.
    • Listen reflectively and actively.
    • Write coherently.

Resisting Inappropriate Social Pressure

    • Be assertive using multiple strategies to avoid engaging in unwanted, unsafe, unethical, or unlawful conduct.
    • When appropriate, express openness to maintain a relationship with those who suggested unwanted or negative behavior.

Negotiating Conflict Constructively

    • Follow a systematic approach to conflict resolution that achieves mutually satisfactory resolutions by addressing the needs of all concerned.

Seeking and Offering Help When Needed

    • Effectively ask for and receive help from others.
    • Offer help to others needing assistance.

Unit 4: Relationship Skills


Essential Questions


Lesson Activities

Unit 4: Relationship Skills

Lesson 1 (4.1)


Establishing Relationships

Essential Questions

1. How do you introduce yourself and your skill set to new people and in different situations?

2. Why is it important to make an effort to meet new people?


SWBAT introduce themselves to new people in appropriate ways.

Lesson 4.1 Folder

Lesson Plans:

Pre-K 4.1

Kindergarten 4.1

1st Grade 4.1

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Lesson 2 (4.2)


Developing Positive Relationships with Boundary Setting

Essential Questions

1. What does a positive relationship that serves you and others look like/sound like/feel like?

2. When a relationship is not positive, how do you set boundaries for yourself and others?


1. SWBAT identify what a positive relationship looks like/sounds like/feels like.

2. SWBAT set boundaries for themselves and others.

Lesson 4.2 Folder

Lesson Plans:

Pre-K 4.2

Kindergarten 4.2

1st Grade 4.2

2nd Grade 4.2

3rd Grade 4.2

4th Grade 4.2

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Lesson 3 (4.3)


Seeking or Offering Support

Essential Questions

1. How can you use self-awareness to understand when you should advocate for support for yourself?

2. What can you do when you recognize someone needs support?


1. SWBAT identify when they need to seek support

2. SWBAT recognize situations where they can help others

Lesson 4.3 Folder

Lesson Plans:

Pre-K 4.3

Kindergarten 4.3

1st Grade 4.3

2nd Grade 4.3

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Lesson 4 (4.4)


Resolving Conflicts Constructively

Essential Questions

1. How can we appropriately identify and name the reasons for our negative reactions and behavior?

2. How can we approach tense situations in a solutions-oriented way where we use connection to solve problems?

Younger grades:

How can we name what and why we feel when we don’t get along with others?


1. SWBAT name the reasonings and feelings behind their own conflict behavior.

2. Younger grades: SWBAT create “I” statements to describe how and why they are feeling (“I feel _____ because ______).

Lesson 4.4 Folder

Lesson Plans:

Pre-K 4.4

Kindergarten 4.4

1st Grade 4.4

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12th Grade 4.4

Lesson 5 (4.5)

Teaching Tolerance Ideas


Resisting Negative Social Pressure and Standing Up For Others

Essential Questions

1. What effect does negative social pressure have?

2. What can happen if no one speaks out against negative social pressure?

3. What are different ways you can react to negative social pressure?


SWBAT identify what being an upstander vs bystander means.

Lesson 4.5 Folder

Lesson Plans:

Pre-K 4.5

Kindergarten 4.5

1st Grade 4.5

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